Hi!
I haven't written in a while, I can see. Perhaps I should change that!
Let's see...what is there to talk about...OH I got it. Let's talk about forgiveness, hm?
Sort of a change of pace, I would like to talk about how important it is to forgive. This basically comes from me being very, very irritated with someone last night. I won't go into detail, but let's just say she messed up and it cost me a good time. I was determined to be mad at her all day, so that she would understand how badly she messed up. I didn't want her to do it again. I didn't want to say "Oh don't worry about it, it's no big deal." Because it was a big deal, to me at least. And sometimes to forgive is confused with to forget, and I sure as anything would not forget.
I suppose my mind changed, though, when she texted me and apologized for her behavior. She told me she wouldn't do it again, and she told me she was really embarrassed. And I know what you're thinking, "Don't trust her, she'll do it again. She's just being nice." Or maybe you aren't thinking that, but I was...
And then I thought, "She's already feeling bad enough, you don't need to make it worse. Don't be mean. You don't have to forget, and you can keep an eye on her for a while, but you can always forgive." So I guess that's what I'm trying to say now. If there is anyone you know whom you are currently holding a grudge against, please don't. I'm not saying act like it's all ok, and it's no big deal, and just forget it even happened. Nobody will learn anything that way. But you should think about it. The person you are mad at may feel horrible, and just be afraid to tell you because they know you are mad at them. If they build up the courage to apologize and ask for forgiveness, you should try and understand. Everybody just wants to be loved.
And now I sound like a hippie. And that's when you know it's time to go to bed.
Peace out y'all
I love your posts Beck. And you are right about forgiveness. Carrying a grudge gets pretty heavy and burdensome. Forgiveness takes the load off so you can move on. Such a wise lady oh Beck of the Harris clan. Luv ya!!!
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